Every once in awhile America needs refereshing on how men should behave with women. I am glad that men’s behavior towards women is being brought to the forefront and being addressed in public forums and our courts. But outrage, controversy and harsher laws will change nothing by themselves. These principles of proper behavior must be taught beginning in Pre-School.
I certainly have not always been a gentleman. I’m not innocent of mistreating those I love. But I’ve learned over the years to do so. I have gained control over my pride, anger, and authority because my heart’s desire has always been to be romantically and deeply in love forever. (I think that is what we all want that.) But my mind-set and my behavior had to change for me to finally find it.
Men by nature and physique are more powerful than most women. Almost always throughout history men have had authority over women. That should never be a bad thing. It should never be used so that women resent men: In a manner that incites them to anger, or to tears, and trauma. – No one will ever find happiness if men behave that way, especially not our wives, children, and neighbors. It is shameful behavior!
These are the qualities that everyone must possess if they want to find love and live happily ever after. No one will ever find lasting joy, peace and love who does not seek to live and to express these attitudes:
“Love is patient and kind. Love is never resentful, prideful or rude. Love does dot demand its own way. Love is not angry and does not keep bringing up old grievances, Love is just and fair. Love never gives up. Love always hopes for the best. Love endures through every hardship. True love lasts forever!” (Bible)
In my generation and for many decades before I was born there was a book that was universally used throughout America as the standard for proper behavior for boys and girls, men and women. It was Emily Post’s: Etiquette: The Blue Book of Social Usage. It was first published in 1922. Since, it has been updated numerous times. Now we have the 18th edition.
I was taught to open doors for women; that “women are always first”; and to stand whenever a woman enters a room to sit at a setting or table with you. Overall, to always treat women with kindness, gently, to never speak harshly to them, and to always treat them with the utmost respect.
Men love women because we need them to complete us. Just as women need men. We possess many attributes unique to our sex that each desires in the other. But we will never find the fulfillment we seek unless we all treat eachother with respect and kindness.
I have let go of my resentments and anger. I have washed away my issues from my past. I had to in order to find what I always desired, true love.
Imagine a world in which we all love eachother! I believe that day will come. I believe every word when I pray, “Thy kingdom come. Thy will be done, on earth, as it is in heaven.” – I could have never defeated the enemies that were within and preventing me from being a loving person without the power of God. I tried everything else; but only faith in the love of God for me was strong enough to liberate me. – I am now a very happily married man. The Spirit of the Holy God lives within us. We experience the life, the joy, and peace, and the love that Jesus Christ gives to those that believe in his resurrection and his promise to return. Praise God!
P.S. If you follow this advice, I promise that you will have a Merry Christmas.